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How to have great conversation on a first date

First dates can be nerve-wracking. There are usually high expectations set by both parties, and tensions can be high. While it’s true you can be very attracted to someone and have amazing chemistry, it’s also important to maintain an interesting and flowing conversation. In fact, what you talk about on a first date can either make or break your chances of getting that coveted second date.

So, what are some great ways to maintain a smooth and flowing conversation on a first date? Let us help:

It’s ok to be nervous - and admit it

If there’s one thing that’s typically true on a first date, it’s that both parties will probably be pretty nervous. If you come out and admit this to your date, it could be an excellent icebreaker to kick off the date. It can also help take some of the pressure off both of you, and it will also show you as an open and honest person.

Ask a lot of questions

Great conversations should be an easy flow between the two of you. If one person isn’t asking questions or is only talking about themselves, this can be a complete show stopper. If you’re someone who can be a little shy, or unsure of what to ask, revisit what you know already about the person and think of some questions ahead of time.

Don’t spill too many beans

This is a first date, not a therapy appointment. While it’s important to be yourself and be honest, airing your intimate dirty laundry might be too much too soon. Each party revealing a little bit about each other over time is a much better way to build intimacy at a healthy pace.

No politics

Politics can be one of those topics that people are passionate about and hold very near and dear to their hearts. When it comes to long-term relationship potential, knowing your date’s political beliefs can be a real benefit. For the sake of being judgmental or overly emotional on a first date, save the political talk until you’ve gotten to know each other a little bit better.

Don’t be negative - especially about yourself

You’re awesome, and your date probably wouldn’t have agreed to go out with you if they didn’t think that to be true. We all have flaws, but there’s no need to feature them in conversation on your first date. Tone down the self-deprecation and keep everything positive.

Sometimes the first date doesn’t turn into a second one, and that’s ok because there’s many fish in the sea. If you maintain a great conversation, however, you’ll not only have a great time but it can quickly turn into a second. If you’re looking for a dating app that will help you get the first date and meet the person of your dreams, try BYBER.

BYBER Team 😉

Conversation by Alex Holyoake licensed under Creative commons 4