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Making the connection: The difference between a first and second date.

You and your Byber date had the perfect night out. The mood was just right, you made a good impression, and they want to see you again. Now that the hard part is over, it’s time to work towards full-on relationship mode. Right?

Definitely not. One of the biggest mistakes daters make today is assuming that a single memorable night is a good foundation for a budding relationship. The truth is that, while it’s a good start, it is only the first step in a long road of romance. Moving forward is about building on your past successes and that means having a second date that is just as memorable as the first.

Making the connection

Date number one is all about making a strong impression, while the second date is about making a connection. The chances are you'll have already covered all of the typical first date topics: family, friends, job, hobbies, special skills. Now that they have a blueprint for who you are as a person, it\s time to show them all the things you can’t put into words. You won’t know until later whether it's your smile, laugh, or intelligence they like best about you, but now's the time to give them a chance to decide.

A change of pace

Plenty of daters get the idea that the second date needs to completely overshadow the first, in terms of cost, time, and effort. While putting your best foot forward is always a good idea, constantly trying to outdo yourself isn’t sustainable. Instead, try to surprise your date with something new. If you went out to eat for your first meeting, try a movie this time. Even something as simple as a beachside walk can be a meaningful experience - if done right.

Show that you were paying attention

Remember all of those details your date shared during your last conversation? Hopefully you do, because the best way to have a successful date is to prove that you were taking thorough notes. Do you know their favorite food, or local spot they've been wanting to visit? You can also refer back to details they mentioned about themselves in passing, to show you're a good listener.

BYBER Team 😉

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