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3 reasons to always go on a second date, and the one time you shouldn't

Dating can be tricky. It can be hard to meet someone, no matter what your approach is. And even when you meet someone you think you like on Byber, it can take a long time to get to know them! That's why that if you're looking for a serious relationship, you should see someone more than once. Here are three reasons to give someone a second chance – and one important reason not to. 

First dates are nervewracking

Almost no one likes first dates! Even if you previously connected via dating app or a quick chat, first dates often feel like interviews where no one is in charge. Awkward questions like "So do you have any siblings?" and "Tell me more about tax auditing" can keep a conversation going, but are rarely the kind of things that connect people. On a first date, everyone is more self-conscious than usual. 

It takes time to get to know someone

Some people believe that love only blossoms out of long friendships. The reason, they argue, is that it takes time to really get to know someone, and only after you are aware of and accept the other person's flaws can you truly begin to love them. When looking initially for a romantic partner, many people ignore flaws that might be a big deal later on because they're focused on finding love from the start. 

People's personalities come out as you get to know them, so giving a potential date a second chance is a good way to get to know who someone really is. 

People connect over shared experiences

Going to dinner can be an enjoyable experience, but people really connect when they have the chance to build up shared experiences. You might find on your third date that you can connect back to something that happened on your first date, and that's a great way to start building a relationship. Try to focus on dates where there's an activity at hand so you really share some unique experiences. 

When NOT to go on a second date 

If you're sure from the first date that there's just no chance – if they express offensive opinions, for example – listen to your gut. While most people are well-meaning, never go on multiple dates with someone you don't feel safe or comfortable around.

BYBER Team 😉

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