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5 ways to improve your openers.

How do you break the ice once you've come across a profile that piques your interest? It's one of the greatest questions since the dawn of time--or, at least, since the dawn of dating apps. Don't risk getting lost in the shuffle: we've done our research and come up with a few ways to spice up your openers.

1. If you're looking for someone who shares your sense of humor (aren't we all?), go for a weird and quirky opener. Make an irreverent pop culture reference or send them a goofy GIF. At the very least, you can assume that anyone who responds positively is someone with whom you are likely to laugh. 

2. Cats or dogs? Peanut butter or Nutella? These are certain issues on which everyone seems to hold a strong opinion. However, you should definitely err on the side of caution by steering away from anything too controversial, like politics or religion. Keep conversation fun and light. 

3. If you're not interested in wasting time or risking the dreaded fizzle of a conversation, break the ice by immediately suggesting a date. Improve the likelihood of a positive response by giving them an either/or option--for example, dessert or coffee? Thai or Italian?

4. Too often, we neglect to actually pay close attention to the details of someone's profile. Sure, it may be someone's good looks that lured you in, but a compliment on physical appearance doesn't always feel personal. Does their profile include a cool travel picture? Ask where they went. Are they cuddling a pet in another picture? Inquire after their pet: breed, name, and age. 

5. If you're still struggling to come up with a way to approach your romantic interest, remember that you do have something in common: you're both on the same dating app! Ask them about the funniest message they've ever received. Everyone is bound to have a response. 

Go for an icebreaker that is conversational and genuine and you are sure to attract the right kind of match! When in doubt, ask a question: almost everyone loves to talk about themselves.

BYBER Team 😉

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