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How a dating app can help you meet friends in your new city

Most people don't consider using a dating app for anything other than its intended purpose, but they can also be advantageous in finding new friends. This is especially true if you're moving to a new city or going on vacation. You may want to meet up with locals who can show you around. Taking a few steps in advance can help you do that safely and easily.

Change your location

Once you set up your dating app profile, you'll want to change your location to the city of your destination. People won't usually look at profiles from outside their area. You'll have much more success if people think you're already in the area.

Listen to your instincts

A note about safety here. While most people use dating services because they genuinely want to connect, there are those who use them for less reputable reasons. Listen to what your conscience is telling you, before you agree to meet someone. If you think something is off, you're probably right. 

Set your boundaries early

Whether on vacation or making a permanent move, you will want to be upfront about your intentions. Crushed feelings and resentment can result if someone agrees to meet you expecting more than you're really willing to give. Once you determine that you're going to meet in person, make a point to let him or her know you're only looking for friendship. If that's unacceptable, they can cancel without feeling used.

Start looking early

Don't wait until the last minute to start swiping right on profiles. Remember, most people are looking for love or something more casual, even if you're not. That means it may take you some time to find people willing to go to the friend zone with you. Also, connecting early will give you more time to become acquainted with your new friends. Some online chatting will give you an opportunity to feel them out and make sure they are who they claim to be.

Using a dating app to find platonic friends can be a challenge, but it can be done and it can be the best way to meet people in a strange city. A little perseverance may be necessary, but it will pay off and you may develop a long-lasting relationship as a reward. Be safe, be honest, and be yourself. 

BYBER Team 😉

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Have you considered lunch for that first date?

If you've met someone with the BYBER app, you're probably eager to meet up and agree on a time and place for a date. However, all of that comes with some anxiety for both parties. Some people get so nervous about asking someone they've met on a dating app out for a dinner date that they put it off or ask too late in the week when the other person is already booked for the weekend. What's the perfect solution? Make the first date a lunch date.

Casual, no-pressure atmosphere

Dating always comes with some nerves, but often that nervous energy is more pronounced during a quiet dinner date. Everything from your outfit to your manners to your choice of dinner is on display, and the conversation may falter due to nerves. If this has ever happened to you, having a nice lunch together is a great way to take the pressure off. Restaurants aren't as quiet at lunch time, and people tend to dress more casually. And, because it's early in the day, you can schedule other things to do together that day if the lunch goes well. 

If you aren't into bars, a restaurant lunch provides plenty of small meals without the bar scene that many restaurants take on at night. And, even an appetizer is enough for a lunch meal portion. If you have a tight budget, buying yourself and your date lunch will cost far less than buying full dinners. 

Break the ice

If you've been messaging a match you found on the BYBER app, talking about having a casual lunch date soon can break the ice when you want to ask for a date. It's an easy way to get to know each other and to see if more dates are something you both want. If the date goes well, spending time amongst your city's nightlife many not be far behind. If there are several people you want to get to know before you choose one to date full time, having lunch dates makes sense for getting to know them in a casual, no-pressure way that won't break your monthly budget.

BYBER Team 😉

 

 

Dating apps vs. meeting in bars

Do happy couples and lifelong friends first meet in bars? Of course; it happens all the time. However, for every one chance meeting at a bar that starts a great relationship, there are often plenty that we'd rather not have. Sometimes, it's a disaster from the first impression, and others, you can spend the whole evening getting to know someone and thinking it's going well, only to realize later that you're not compatible at all.

Breaking the ice

Dating apps can't do the work for you when it comes to getting to know someone; nothing will ever replace real interaction. However, they can go a long way when it comes to finding people who you're likely to get along with. By the time they meet, users will already have shared a few interests and know basic background information about one another, which can make it much easier to "break the ice" and then sustain a conversation.

Wide range of choices

Dating apps also offer users access to a much larger pool of potential partners than they could ever meet in person. This is a major advantage, whether you live in a less-populated rural area or a bustling city; in either case, you'd still probably never get to meet someone special who lives just one town over. In the way that not everyone goes to bars, not everyone uses dating websites or apps either, but in any given area you're sure to see more people online than at a tavern, you can quickly differentiate between ones you do or don't like.

Peaceful surroundings

Bars also sometimes present issues that can be easily avoided by meeting through an app. With a dating app, you can get to know each other through messaging without the annoyances of loud music, rowdy crowds or worrying about making it home safely. If you both like bars, then that could make for a great date, but you'll be glad you can enjoy a night out without juggling the often awkward "getting to know you" ritual.

Use Byber

Whether you're looking for love or just connecting with friends, apps like <www.byber.co can help you skip the craziness at bars and simply communicate and give you a head start in getting to know your potential life partner.

BYBER Team 😉

Telltale signs a man has lost interest in you

There are some telltale signs that the man you are dating has lost interest in you. Some of them may even be staring you straight in the face. Here are some clues that his change of behavior may mean he has lost interest. 

He communicates less

They say communication is key to building a strong relationship. From the time you start dating someone, you can tell their level of interest based on how frequently they communicate with you. Whether it is text messaging, calling, or emailing, a man who is interested in you will find a way to stay in constant contact. 

Most likely, he does this daily. This is his way of letting you know he is thinking about you. Once he slows down on reaching out daily or starts skipping days, he most likely wants out. 

He stops planning dates

A man who is interested in you will want to see you every chance he gets. At first, things can be exciting, and dates may happen at least once or twice a week. In fact, on Mondays, he is already making plans to see you on the weekend. He is making sure he is on your schedule! 

Once you notice your man no longer plan dates or you have to make the effort to coerce him into going out or spending time with you, the writing may be on the wall! 

He makes excuses

From having to run an errand, to working on the weekends, or needing to attend a function that you are, obviously, not invited to - the excuses keep coming. Let’s call them “reasons” why he is too “busy” to spend time with you. 

Of course, we all have a life outside of dating but being forever booked all of a sudden is a telltale sign that your man wants you gone! People make time for the people that are important to them, even if there is a small window of opportunity to be in their presence. 

There may be other ways to tell if your man has lost interest in dating you. Just pay close attention and you won’t be able to miss them! If you find yourself on the receiving end of this treatment, don't put up with it. Get on Byber the new dating app and start meeting men who want to spend time with you.

BYBER Team 😉

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How to have great conversation on a first date

First dates can be nerve-wracking. There are usually high expectations set by both parties, and tensions can be high. While it’s true you can be very attracted to someone and have amazing chemistry, it’s also important to maintain an interesting and flowing conversation. In fact, what you talk about on a first date can either make or break your chances of getting that coveted second date.

So, what are some great ways to maintain a smooth and flowing conversation on a first date? Let us help:

It’s ok to be nervous - and admit it

If there’s one thing that’s typically true on a first date, it’s that both parties will probably be pretty nervous. If you come out and admit this to your date, it could be an excellent icebreaker to kick off the date. It can also help take some of the pressure off both of you, and it will also show you as an open and honest person.

Ask a lot of questions

Great conversations should be an easy flow between the two of you. If one person isn’t asking questions or is only talking about themselves, this can be a complete show stopper. If you’re someone who can be a little shy, or unsure of what to ask, revisit what you know already about the person and think of some questions ahead of time.

Don’t spill too many beans

This is a first date, not a therapy appointment. While it’s important to be yourself and be honest, airing your intimate dirty laundry might be too much too soon. Each party revealing a little bit about each other over time is a much better way to build intimacy at a healthy pace.

No politics

Politics can be one of those topics that people are passionate about and hold very near and dear to their hearts. When it comes to long-term relationship potential, knowing your date’s political beliefs can be a real benefit. For the sake of being judgmental or overly emotional on a first date, save the political talk until you’ve gotten to know each other a little bit better.

Don’t be negative - especially about yourself

You’re awesome, and your date probably wouldn’t have agreed to go out with you if they didn’t think that to be true. We all have flaws, but there’s no need to feature them in conversation on your first date. Tone down the self-deprecation and keep everything positive.

Sometimes the first date doesn’t turn into a second one, and that’s ok because there’s many fish in the sea. If you maintain a great conversation, however, you’ll not only have a great time but it can quickly turn into a second. If you’re looking for a dating app that will help you get the first date and meet the person of your dreams, try BYBER.

BYBER Team 😉

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Choosing the right nightlife for date night

Whether it's your first date or you've been together for decades, it's always important to choose the right spot for date night. It can be tricky to find places that encourage conversation, are neither too fancy nor too cheap, and above all make for a fun night. Here's a few ideas to help you and your date have a great time:

Bars

Depending on where you live, you might not have too many choices, but try to pick a bar that works for your style; bars that are too loud, rowdy, or play music you can't stand are probably bad choices. And of course, always drink responsibly, especially if you're driving.

Movies

The trouble with movies is that you can't talk, which makes it hard to get to know each other. They can be a great chapter of the evening, but they shouldn't be the whole date; try to go somewhere else afterwards to discuss it.

Concerts

Concerts have the same problem as movies: you can't really talk until afterwards. Crowded rock concerts can be particularly crazy, and it can be easy to get separated. However, these can be some of the most fun events in peoples' lives, and if you're both fans of a performer, sharing a concert experience can create a meaningful memory.

Bowling

Bowling is a great option for dates; it's good, wholesome fun, it's usually reasonably priced, and it encourages conversation. However, many people get burned out after a game or two, so unless you and your partner are avid bowlers, be sure to have a backup plan.

Walking

If you live in a city, why not just walk around and see where the night takes you? This can make for a very romantic evening, but it does create pressure for relatively constant conversation, which can be intimidating on a first date. Obviously, stick to safe and well-lit areas.

Most importantly, don't overthink it. You're going out to have fun and get to know each other; the setting's not nearly as important as the connection between you and your date. A truly happy couple will have fun at the grocery store.

BYBER Team 😉

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5 tips for effective communication in a relationship

Communication is the conveyance of information from one place to another. When you are in a relationship, effective communication helps you to explain what you are going through or what you need to someone else. Communication process not only allows you to meet your needs but it also enables you to become more connected to your partner and invested in your relationship. To facilitate effective communication while dating, here are four tips to help you build a lasting relationship.

Have customary bonding time

Avoid spending all your free time together just watching TV or involved in other activities. Try and hang out together just talking and showing affection to each other. Hanging out in this way builds the kind of closeness that will promote honesty and vulnerable conversations.

Address emotions as soon as you can

Whether it a positive or negative issue that's bothering you, never delay talking it out. Ensure you calmly describe how or why you might be feeling this way. If you are asked, "What's bothering you?" you should never respond with "Nothing" or any other non-committal answer. This is because your issue can't be resolved if the two of you don't know the full story.

Set your expectations early

If there is anything that you want out of the relationship, or feel is an essential quality in a partner or a relationship, make it known as early as possible. Also, share if you regularly need some alone time or if you want to be monogamous and if consistent sex is a priority for you. Ensure you open up about all your relationship concerns from the start through action and communication. Ensure you encourage the other party to share their expectations too.

Essential talks should be in private and in person

Although face-to-face conversations may be uncomfortable, it's the only appropriate way they should be addressed. Emails, phone calls and SMS may not be the right mediums since a lot can be misunderstood and lost through text. But in-person conversations give an ideal time for both parties to explain their part. You MUST avoid public confrontations since you will not put your partner at ease by having an emotional conversation while people are watching and risk making a problem worse.

Never make assumptions

Avoid jumping to conclusions about why your partner acted in a particular way or making assumptions about how he or she feels. A simple question could well save you a lot of headaches and may get your partner to open up to you. In short, it can drive you insane to dwell on a thousand different possibilities. 

Communication is the key to a successful relationship. Embrace these five tips to building effective communication in a relationship and the dating process will run much more smoothly and be more enjoyable. If you're still looking for the one, why not get started on Byber dating app today?

BYBER Team 😉

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Top signs you're in love with the right person

It is true that most of us have undergone our fair share of heartbreaks and we are always left wondering how it would feel to fall in love with the right person. But when it happens, you’ll realize that the waiting was worth your time. Everything you knew about falling in love will suddenly shift. Here are some of the things and feelings to expect once you fall in love with the right person.

Expectations of perfections are absent

Any true and real relationship will not be perfect. However, while the ties with your soul mate may not be perfect, they will be the perfect fit for you. Each relationship has its own set of problems, but what matters in the end is that you’d still want to be together even during tough times.

You’ll feel valued

The right person for you will not only express love through words but also through actions. They will go out of their way to ensure you feel cherished and communicate how lucky they are to have a special person like you.

Your negativity changes

We often carry negatives from our past experiences and relationships which make us doubt our abilities and potential. However, real love can quickly make you see the positive aspects of your life rather than the negative.

You’ll love yourself even more

Once you learn to love and value yourself more, you’ll also be in a better position to love your partner. Weaker relationships will always challenge your self-worth, but a stronger one will always teach us to value ourselves. The main reason for this is because your partner will make you realize how important you are to them as a whole. 

You feel free but work as a team

Relationships should be all about feeling free to explore what's important to you without being made to feel guilty, but at the same time they should also be built on firm foundations of teamwork and honesty. If you are in the right relationship, you won't struggle to work together or to achieve personal growth and happiness. The strength of the relationship is co-dependent and each individual’s strength lies in the quality of the relationship.

True love will always make you aware of your strengths and weaknesses and teach you how to balance them. Falling in love with the right person cultivates a unique sense of joy and hope. If you’re looking for true love, a dating app like Byber is an excellent place to begin your journey.

BYBER Team 😉

Five signs a second date is a great idea

If you’re single, you know how hard it is to get a second date. Oh, there are plenty of first dates, many even turn into hour-long conversations. At the end of the day, though, no matter how much you like the other person, there’s just no spark. Then, there are times the other person just isn’t into you as much as you thought. You’re left wondering how you didn’t know. Not every encounter goes from a quick drink to a long walk, followed by intense kissing in the parking lot. Here are five things that indicate the first date will likely lead to a second one, and hopefully more.

You think they’re hot

Give it a little time. Sometimes, you might not be immediately attracted to someone, but then they have an amazing personality or a super sexy voice. This goes both ways. If they aren’t looking at you “that way,” there isn’t going to be a second date. 

You are laughing (a lot)

You shouldn’t hear the clock ticking or remember what was happening in the venue better than your date's conversation. Boring people are an energy drain. So, if you or your date are not laughing, shut it down fast.

They ask intelligent questions about you

During the conversation, is your wannabe paramour listening and asking for more details? Someone who isn’t interested will listen without probing to learn more about you. However, when people ask questions about your life, there are interested in getting to know you better. That’s second date gold.

They talk about more than themselves

People who are self-absorbed can go on and on about their friends, their pets and the morning commute. Look for a partner who actively participates in conversations about world events and topics you are passionate about. When you are on a date with someone who’s engaged and excited, it’s fun. It makes you want to know more about them. Score!

They're positive and open-minded

No one wants to date someone who hates everything and thinks everyone else is stupid. Try to keep conversation positive. A negative person will turn every topic into a diatribe of why that restaurant, person or football player sucks. Leave them in their cloud of negativity and don’t look back. If your date offers thoughtful opinions and tries to look on the bright side of most issues, you’ve got yourself a successful second date candidate.

If you're looking for a dating app that works, try BYBER to meet someone great without visiting a single bar.

BYBER Team 😉

5 Top ways to avoid the dreaded friendzone

Ever wondered if nightmares come true? The friendzone is the most prominent proof. Guys hate how girls conveniently mislead and cage them into believing they’re interested in a relationship while in truth they aren’t. This phenomenon typically happens to decent people who haven’t always even had the chance to voice their feelings out loud. What hurts most is the thought of losing out when the problem was fixable. So, what can you do to avoid falling into this trap again? Continue reading below.

Flirt with her

Flirting is a fun and playful way of letting a woman know you’re into her without being blunt. You can use your natural charisma to flirt with her by taking an interest in her hobbies and showing your sense of humor. If you have confidence issues flirting with her in person, try messaging her using dating apps like Byber.

Avoid being the one doing the chasing every-time

Note that this doesn’t involve waiting for two days to reply to her messages or canceling plans with her as this is being plain rude. Pay more attention as to who is doing the pursuing more. If it’s you over 90% of the time, then you’re slowly setting yourself as a desperate person who will always be available. Stop pursuing her aggressively for a while and watch what happens. If she starts texting or calling you to ‘check on you,’ you’re safe. If she doesn’t, well – too bad for you, sorry.

Avoid certain topics with her

Avoid engaging with her on topics of her exes, her long-distance boyfriend, or her crushes. You shouldn’t tolerate it; otherwise, you’ll become her new BFF.

Take her on a date

Be brave and ask her out on a date. Your bravery to ask might be the secret potion for her allowing you into her life. Rejections are part of the game and shouldn’t discourage you in future. If she says no, try again after some time until you’re sure you aren’t what she’s looking for.

Don’t jump in with your feelings

At least in the first instance, you should refrain from telling her how you feel. You should save it for special occasions like during a date in a conducive atmosphere. Tell her bit by bit and make her wait for more from you.

Even as you pursue her while avoiding the dreaded friend-zone, observe how she responds. If she shrinks away from you, you don’t have to look stubborn or creepy. Don’t be too forward unless you’re receiving some positive signs from her. If you feel she’s almost friend-zoned you, simply walk away and look for another girl who’ll value your love.

BYBER Team 😉

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